I’m Talking To You…

You’ve allowed pain to keep you stuck. Every time you look at your situation, you focus on the negative, never expecting anything good. Disappointment and pain have hijacked your vision, making it hard to see what they call “the bright side.”  You believe that speaking from this perspective makes you a realist; you say you don’t know how to pretend. The tricky part about your situation is the never-ending cycle you’re trapped in. You’ve seen and experienced these pains before—from your parents, family, or current friends. Struggle and pretense were their reality, so you’ve accepted that this will also be yours. What you fail to realize is that your thoughts, your words, and your actions keep you in that stuck place, in that toxic cycle. All in the name of being real, you constantly speak death into your life. You become the poster child for disappointment, and you’ve accepted the idea that being alone or feeling lonely is what’s meant for you. But it’s all lies!

Hard Truth

You’ve allowed circumstances to feed you lies, let rejection turn you into a recluse, and permitted toxic people to define who you are. Pride has made you believe you can be self-sufficient, causing you to shut out the truth because confronting it feels too real and overwhelming. It has convinced you that you must constantly protect yourself from this world. The truth is, you were hurt, the people you loved let you down, and in response, you let others down as well. You don’t realize that you overcompensate for past mistakes and decisions, often trusting the wrong people time and time again. But the purpose of this message isn’t to tear you down; it’s to help you realize that things must change. If you want to break the cycle, You Must Change! Romans 12 solidifies this fact by saying, “Don’t copy the behaviors and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good, pleasing, and perfect.” (NLT).

What’s real is that you have purpose and that your life has meaning. You can recognize real hurts and notice constant death around you. Whether it’s physical or spiritual death, you have the power to speak life! Don’t use your tongue to cause more destruction -Proverbs 18:21 says, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it… bear the consequences of their words” (Amp). Don’t let the enemy trick you into cursing yourself. It’s okay to want more! It’s okay to dream again! It’s okay to fight for your happiness! It’s okay to be disappointed, but baby, you can’t stay there! Don’t let people write your story for you, and don’t allow them to keep you in a box! You are more than your experiences. You deserve happiness! So I command you, with the love of Jesus, to come out of that stuck place! 

Break the Cycle

When I look around, I see the brokenhearted. The people who are enraged are often the ones who hurt the most. The ones who die inwardly are those who lost their fight or never found it in the first place. Sometimes, the people in the most pain do random things to keep themselves distracted. They say they deserve better, yet their lifestyle doesn’t reflect a genuine belief in it. So today, I’m talking to you, and I want to encourage you to be the one who breaks the cycle in your family! Be the one who finally fights depression. Be the one who chases their dreams without fear! Be the one who declares that you are not a victim, but a victor! Choose to be the one who doesn’t complain, suppresses their pain, or makes excuses! Be the one who faces the hard truths about yourself head-on! Be the one who invites the Lord in to heal those broken places! You are not alone! You are worthy of love! You don’t have to pretend because real freedom is waiting for you! 

Choose God

I can only speak from what I know and have overcome, and can only offer encouragement from a sincere place. I understand that some people may not be seeking God, but the truth is, he is seeking and pursuing you! He said,

“I was ready to respond, but no one asked for help. I was ready to be found, but no one was looking for me. I said, ‘Here I am, here I am!’ To a rebellious nation that did not call on my name. All day long, I opened my arms to a rebellious people. But they follow their own evil paths and their own crooked schemes.” (Isaiah 65:1-2).

Choose to be the one who surrenders to the Most-High God.  Let him be the one you run to. Don’t be afraid to cry out for help. Choose life. It’s time to change your story!

CBLH